In the world of modern dating, many people are finding it difficult to connect with other people, especially in the times of online dating.
If you’re one of those people who find themselves giving up on dating, maybe courting is more your style.
What does it mean to court someone?
Courting someone usually refers to the activities that happen when a couple is past the dating stage and in a more serious stage of their relationship.
Historically, courting involves a man pursuing a woman by seeking her affection with the end goal of becoming engaged to marry.
But, in this century, a woman can very much be the person who is trying to court someone she likes.
During the 1800s, courting was the standard way of pursuing someone with the intent to marry.
It usually consists of exchanging gifts, getting to know one another, and keeping a respectful distance with little-to-no intimacy, much like the depiction of courtship in the hit Netflix series “Bridgerton.”
What is the difference between courting and dating?
Many people would assume that courting and dating are one and the same, but they are actually very different.
“The main difference is intention. With dating, you don’t know someone’s intention, and even if you ask, you might not get a true answer,” says Ronnie Ann Ryan, a Love and Cosmic Coach. “Plus, not everyone is aware of what their own intention is! Some people are casual and don’t want anyone to have expectations of them. Others are seriously looking for love.”
Courtship is all about getting to know each other and developing a deep and lasting relationship before getting married. It’s about discovery and building a good foundation for marriage while also trying to see whether or not you are compatible.
Dating is a lot less serious, and usually, people aren’t dating around to get married but to simply have fun and meet new people. It’s usually categorized as self-serving with no real purpose of driving into a relationship, as well as being more physical than courting.