If you were scrolling through Twitter or Instagram about a month ago, you likely came across at least one meme featuring red flag emojis. All over the internet, people were using the emoji to share characteristics in other people that they perceived as no-nos. (Do they choose Dasani water out of a fridge full of alternatives? Have they been to more than five Phish shows? Are they #TeamEdward instead of #TeamJacob?)
Yes, the memes were funny, but it got us thinking about more serious dating and relationship red flags, which is why we reached out to Amber Kelleher-Andrews, a dating and relationship expert, celebrity matchmaker and CEO of the matchmaking service Kelleher International for some of her top red flags. She notes, “While being in a new relationship is exciting, sometimes it’s easy to ignore behaviors that can preview landmines in relationships. It is important to be mindful of some glaring red flags that warn you that this may not be the right person for you.” Below, three major red flags she warns all daters to be on the lookout for.
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1. They Want You to Move Too Fast as a ‘Couple’
“When you meet someone that seems to check all your boxes, it is natural to be excited and want to see them as much as possible,” Kelleher-Andrews tells us. “However, if the person you’re seeing is rushing into the dynamics of being a couple without allowing you proper time to get to know each other and let things unfold naturally, it could be a red flag.” She says that this often relates to love bombing, when someone overwhelms you with loving words and actions. Her advice? Take your time and go at your own pace. “Dating is about having fun and getting to know one another. Set clear boundaries and if the other person doesn’t respect them, it might be time to break it off.”
2. They Only Communicate Via Text or Social Media
The occasional “I’m thinking about you” text is sweet, but if the person you recently started dating pretty much only communicates with you digitally, that could be a sign something is off. Kelleher-Andrews says, “To really get to know someone, some traditional conversation on the phone is helpful…If all communication is via text, you are only connecting on the surface and it could signal that the other person isn’t really that interested in getting to know you …….