Whether you’ve always been a plus-sized woman or you’ve identified as a BBW in your more recent years, maintaining a strong sense of self-esteem can be challenging. This is true for anyone, but it’s especially true for plus-sized women who are often on the receiving end of rude and disrespectful comments.
If self-esteem is something you struggle with while looking for a date, then this article is for you: here’s how to say goodbye to haters and love yourself unconditionally!
One of the things often repeated in the self-help communities is the Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. This is the perfect mindset for facing reality.
Unfortunately, there will always be people who are rude or mean to you for no reason (regardless of what you wear, how you look, or what you do), and there’s nothing you can do to change this. However, you can make THEM look bad by treating them as you’d like to be treated yourself.
As a free woman, you are also free to leave whenever, so don’t waste time fighting battles with people who refuse to be civil. The tactic of ignoring or blocking a person is also useful when contacting online so that an unpleasant person will be left alone with their negativity and you will just move on.
It might be tempting to cuss someone out when they’re being rude, but (if possible) it’s always better to make them look bad by “outshining” them instead.
Expand Your Partner Options
While going out to a night of wild clubbing and bar-hopping to find a one-night stand can be fun, don’t forget that there are many other ways to find a man! Traditional dating sites are usually friendly to plus-sized women, and there are even dedicated plus-sized dating communities and well-reviewed BBW hookup sites for singles looking for spicy relationships.
However, never allow yourself to be held back. If there’s a site, service, past-time, or hobby you want to try, go for it! Getting out “in the real world” is often the best way to meet partners.
Keep Your “Friend-Space” A Positive Space
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