By Gillian Watts
Dating practices have gone through a lot of reshaping in recent years. One of the most common places to find love is the Internet.
Understandably, some people are put off by this for different reasons. The safety, healthiness, and quality of relationships formed behind screens is definitely being called into question.
Websites for finding a partner online have been around for the last couple of decades, but with the more recent emersion of apps like Tinder and Grindr, even the online dating is changing vastly as it moves into the territory of “hook-up culture.”
There is a debate whether online dating is the future or a big waste of time. Lots of people worry that online dating is unsafe or that no one can find a serious relationship online.
While I can totally understand all these valid concerns, I can say for a fact that online dating sometimes works out pretty well.
I married someone I met online.
I met my husband in January 2012. I was 17 and still in high school. He lived a couple of hours away from me but, at that point, he was on mission trips.
I didn’t go online searching for a boyfriend, but it happened anyway. Basically, my friends were all using a website meant for just “meeting people” and talked me into making an account.
I met my husband-to-be under platonic circumstances and we started talking. One thing led to another and the relationship developed very naturally. We met in person and started dating that June.
I think meeting online offered us opportunities that most couples don’t get. Because we couldn’t have a physical relationship, we got to know each other really well. There was a trust and bond created before the dating relationship ever really began.
Online relationships can be successful, as long as the relationship moves into the real world and develops naturally the way any other would.
Honestly, it still feels a little weird telling people that we met online, even after over a year and a half of marriage.
I think the only reason it’s weird is that there is such a negative connotation associated with online dating.
People just don’t take relationships …….